As a plus size woman – 39 years of age, 5 ft 7 and 250 pounds, I am the most confident today than I have ever been.

Crystal Nixon – Guest Writer #FTLOSMagazine

Although, I am confident, I am not so confident to think that I can wear anything that hangs on the clothing rack. As the old saying goes, “Everything is not for everyBODY”.

Crystal Nixon – Guest Writer #FTLOSMagazine

I have been blessed with the gift of personal styling and the common sense to know how to dress my pear shape body. I know what works well with my curves and what does not which is half the battle of understanding our personal style.

My style journey has been a process because growing up, one would not catch me in a dress other than for very special occasions and it had to be mandatory because they made me very uncomfortable. Going out with my girlfriends, they were always wearing dresses and I’m wearing slacks or a pair of jeans; my best friend could not stand it. I did not know a certain style of dress could either compliment my shape or ruin it. I did not know prints mattered. I did not know fabrics mattered. I did not know the importance of knowing if the material stretched or not.


Lane Bryant has done a wonderful job depicting all kinds of beauty, sex appeal, and confidence with their “I’m No Angel” campaign.  These women are slaying curves and confidence unapologetically and I love it!

Photo Lane Bryant

In 2015, they launched a sexy ad campaign known as, #Plusisequal.com.  The goal is to help fight for fair representation for all women of all sizes.  They note that, “67% of US women are size 14 to 34, but they’re underrepresented on billboards, magazines, TV…everywhere and believes all women should be seen and celebrated equally.” 

Photo credit: Plussizeequal.com/ Lane Bryant

It makes me proud to see the media is now appreciating plus size woman and showing the world, namely our young impressionable girls that plus size AND fashion go hand-in-hand. We look good, feel good and confident women that are here to stay at any size.  We CAN wear that skirt, dress, shirt, sexy lingerie, etc. and WE ARE fashionable, stylish and trendy while doing it.

credit: @tessholliday instagram

Who I am inspired by the most is Tess Holiday.  She is a blogger and the force behind#EffYourBeautyStandards movement. Popsugar.com deemed her as one of the 15 most fierce plus size fashionistas in the game.  She is also named as one of 30 most influential people on the internet by Time magazine.

With all this influence I see I now will jump at an opportunity to shop for and put on a dress or a skirt with a pair of heels. I step out on purpose with my head held high, a bounce in my step and SLAY like the force I am.